“Love Me Tinder” Write Up by Bethany Erickson

Emily Witt’s 2014 GQ article “Love Me Tinder” (yes this piece was chosen partly due to the fact that the title is a pun) follows the love lives of the average lonely American and shows us the varied ways they are finding love, or hooking up, or just finding ways to waste time. One thing I found in common between all of the people listed is that they all got bored easily. Katherine (37) “needed something new,” and others looked at the technological way of dating as more of a game than anything else. I think that dating has become so casual and this article demonstrates how people are looking at sites such as Tinder as a source of self-gratification first, and love second. I think this reflects Americans as a whole and also could point to high divorce rates. I also think it is interesting how older women are feeling this push to get on these apps because of the conformity surrounding their sex. I know my mother used match.com to find a partner (mate?) and it worked out successfully for her. But of course, she got her fair share of creeps too. The reason she decided to get married again is because all of the friends her age were married and it was weird for a single woman to hang out with married couples. All of the men left in the pool she could date were interesting fellas. The men were usually tired, leftovers from a divorce due to a midlife crisis or had a wife that had died from cancer or something and was left with 2-3 kids. She never went out with a man that had not been married already. They are so far out of the dating scene that companies have made a new scene for them. Everyone wants love, or wants to be loved, and these companies are making the big bucks because of it. The facts of the matter is, is that more people are on social media than ever before and less people are getting to know each other the old fashioned way, whatever that was. Sending a text is so much easier than hauling ass to a date somewhere just to get to know someone in hopes that you’ve found your perfect match over an hour of Starbucks. The older generation is picking up on what the younger generation already knows, that technology makes life so much easier, that instant gratification is, like, so amazing. And that’s so scary. I can’t imagine my mom going on tinder to find a man. Then again, that is what people thought about online dating just a little while ago. I remember how embarrassing and mortifying it used to be if you were found out to be on match.com or one of “those online dating websites” and that has changed because people have figured out that they actually work. The industry has noticed that there is a larger demographic of single people looking for love, and that is the youngsters. The major difference between a company like match.com and tinder is that match.com is specifically meant for people looking for a spouse while tinder is meant for hookups and boyfriend/girlfriend hunting. Since this line is so blurred there is also a blurred line of what dating even is in the younger generation. Or, at least, that’s what I feel like. Tinder is like a baby match.com. They’re both playing with love. Dating relationships mimic marriages: You don’t cheat, you love each other, you kiss and have sex. But it’s not adults trying to have these “serious relationships,” it’s awkward teens and college kids who are told that they need to be on tinder because it’s the new hip thing. This sets them up to have bad relationships now, which prevents them from knowing how to have good relationships in the future. The whole basis of tinder is judging people based on first glimpse and determining whether they’re close enough to perfection to be good enough for us. Uh hello??? Isn’t that what we’re trying to get our generation to steer away from? Isn’t that basically the whole Mean Girls cafeteria scene?

This article weaves in experiences while including facts which maintains entertainment throughout the piece. But I don’t truly feel for the characters. They seem like nonchalant pieces of mush who just want to bang cause it sounds cool. I don’t feel for them as people because I don’t think that much information was given about them. This piece seems to drone on. I think that much of the article is not needed. I don’t know what interviewing the owners of Tinder had to do with the main idea of the story. I don’t think that Facebook pokes had to be mentioned or explained. My main issue with this piece is that it got boring very quickly. I also got the characters confused because they all started to sound the same in my head. I think a good way for the editor to fix this would be to take out lines and little anecdotes that really don’t matter and eliminate the people who are not essential to the story to eliminate bullk.

Preguntas for the class:

*Did the length of the article bore you?

*Do you think that only one couple should’ve been mentioned?

*Do you think the addition of the makers of Tinder were necessary?

*Do you think kids should be dating as young as they are?

*Is tinder a good way to meet people to find love?

*Do you trust the article less because the article states, “Obviously these people requested fake names.”

 

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